In today’s society it is not hard for one to see Satan’s lies being accepted by mankind.  One of those lies which has been most readily accepted by our society is that the godly woman’s role, as explained in the Bible, is demeaning, unchallenging, and basically unimportant. Many true Christians have been deceived and believe this lie. We have gotten ourselves so far away from the beauty, strength, and dignity of the Christian woman’s role, her behavior, clothing, and proper hair length.

God, in His word, has set guidelines for His daughters to follow. Hopefully, this booklet will help and encourage those individuals who are desiring to understand the Christian woman’s role and how very important, rewarding, and life-changing her position can be, if she follows the biblical principles He established.

The first step in becoming a godly woman is to get your relationship right with God.  That is the EASY part.

1.  Recognize that you are lost-- taking your place, right now, before God as a hell-deserving sinner.  Isaiah 53:6; Romans 3:10; 3:23

2.  Understand  that  the  Bible  teaches   that   there is  a   terrible consequence awaiting those who sin (broken God’s laws).  Because of our sins (crimes) we deserve God’s punishment in His jail, which is hell.  Ezekiel 18:4;  Romans 6:23;    2 Thess. 1:8,9;    Luke 16:22-24

3. Recognize the deity of Jesus Christ and that He died on the cross for YOUR sins (crimes) against a HOLY GOD, and spent 3 days and 3 nights in God’s jail (hell) paying for your eternal crimes, so that you wouldn’t have to.
HIS DEITY  John 5:18; Col. 1:16; Phil. 2:6-8
HIS DEATH & RESURRECTION  1 Peter 1:18.19; Romans 5:8;  I Peter 2:24; 3:18; Acts 2:31,32

4. Galatians 2:16 tells us that, “...a man is not justified by the works of the law but through faith in Christ Jesus, even we have believed in Christ Jesus, that we may be justified by faith in Christ, and not by the works of the Law; since by the works of the Law shall no flesh be justified.” Eph. 2:8,9

5. Personally claim salvation. Claim by faith alone the free gift of eternal life which God promises you for placing your trust in the finished work of Jesus Christ.  Romans 4:21; 4:5; 5:9; 10:9

The moment you believe the gospel you are saved from the penalty of your sins and acquire ETERNAL LIFE, and it is
ETERNAL, FOREVER.  You cannot lose it!  You have been “BORN AGAIN”  according to God’s word, the Bible.  This is the second birth and there are only TWO!  You cannot become “unborn”.  Yes, as a believer (a Christian) you will battle with sin, but sins can NEVER separate you from your Savior.  Jesus died for ALL your sins--not “most,” but ALL.  I John 5:11-13; John 3:18; Romans 4:5; Titus 3:5

The Bible says that when you become born-again, you have His Holy Spirit (God) indwelling you, Ephesians 1:13, and He (the Spirit) will never leave you.  You are sealed.  It is through the Holy Spirit that a believer grows and changes. Galatians 5:16-25

The second step is having a humble and teachable attitude, realizing that our natural self is usually wrong.  We need to have a
tender heart and an attentive ear to the Holy Spirit so that He may change our thinking to His thinking.  Hebrews 4:7

To be ready for the attacks that Satan WILL throw at believers,  the Christian woman  needs  to  understand  that  she has a
disadvantage.  She    was    made    weaker,  both    physically   and judgmentally. “You  husbands  likewise, live  with   your   wives in  an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow-heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”  1 Peter 3:7  Peter is not referring to a mental weakness, but a judgmental and physical weakness.  Why is there this weakness?  Because God made the woman perfect for her role.  She was created to be the helpmate and soul mate for the man, Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a HELPER suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18  Sometimes we think that the job of helping someone is not so honorable, but nothing could be further from the truth.  The Holy Spirit is called the Helper, and it is He that indwells every believer and guides us in truth.  John 16:7-15 and John 14:16-17  God made the woman with more sensitive emotions. A patient, gentle, nurturing hand is needed in the everyday tasks of raising children; and the loving support a wife gives her
husband is greatly needed in our ungodly society.

The sensitive emotions God instilled into a woman were given to help her fulfill her role perfectly.  The drawback is that sensitive emotions can cloud one’s judgment.  Emotions are usually what Satan
attacks to deceive both men and women. So, if a woman has more sensitive emotions, she may be more susceptible to Satan’s attacks. The Bible teaches us that Satan is the great deceiver and the father of lies. John 8:44, Rev. 20:10  His description in 1 Peter 5:8 says, “Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls about ike a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” Nature shows us that the lion usually goes after the “weaker” animal so it is very important for a woman to understand this weakness that she has, because Satan is also extremely intelligent. Ezekiel 28:12-19  When we refer back to
the Garden  of  Eden,  who  did  Satan, as  he spoke through the serpent, approach to deceive? Eve! Why didn’t he go to Adam? Because he knew he couldn’t deceive Adam.  Even when Eve presented Adam with the fruit, and told him that she enjoyed it, he was not deceived.  “...and it WAS NOT Adam who was deceived, but the woman BEING QUITE DECEIVED, fell into transgression.” 1 Tim. 2:14

If we carefully go through Gen. 3:1-13, we will find a very important lesson to learn from Adam and Eve’s disobedience.  The
only reason Adam ate from the forbidden tree was because he wanted to please Eve, instead of his Creator.  Eve based her decision on emotions, “...when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a “delight” to the eyes, and that the tree was “desirable” to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate.”  vs. 6. Now had she based her decision on what God told her, and reasoned rationally, she would have had victory over Satan’s lies, by simply saying,  “God said NO!”

The main reason a Christian woman fails is because she bases her judgments on emotional-clouded thinking, rather than being
rational.  A good example of a woman failing because of her emotions is Lot’s wife.  Gen. 19:12-17, tells us that she was told to not look back at the destruction of the cities, Sodom and Gomorrah.  Because of the sins of the people, God was going to destroy these cities. Gen. 19:26 tells us that she did look back and she became a pillar of salt.  Whether she looked back out of sympathy or curiosity, her feelings or emotions caused her to disobey God, which cost her, her life.  The only way a Christian woman can succeed is to base her judgments on the FACTS (commands) and promises found in God’s Word, and obey and believe them.  For instance, the Bible says to pray, and  meditate on God’s Word daily,  without ceasing.  Psalm 1:2; 1 Thess.  5:17   We know our flesh doesn’t want to pray or take time to read God’s  Word, because the Bible tells us that, “...the flesh is
hostile toward God; for it does not subject itself to the law of God, for it is not even able to do so.”  Rom. 8:7  Now if we wait for some special  feeling or emotion, before we pray or witness or read God’s Word or submit to our leaders, the flesh will be given time to war with the Spirit, Gal. 5:17.  That is why the best thing to do is OBEY the commands of God’s Word.  “Good” feelings ALWAYS flow from good (obedient) actions.  Because Satan can deceive her more easily, a woman’s role is not that of leadership in the church or in the home, where it is so important to have sound decision-making.  Again, God has made her PERFECT for her role, just as He created the man perfect for his role.  But God has provided protection for His daughters’ weakness. For the married woman this protection is her godly husband.  For the single woman it is a godly father or a godly
Christian pastor.  Hopefully, her leadership is a godly, spiritual, Christian man, but if not, once again God has provided the right steps for her to take.  We will see these further into this study.

As was shared, God’s protection for a woman is the authority He has placed over her.  That authority is always going to be male. Even a single woman or a single mother or a widow left to raise her children alone should seek counsel from the male leadership of the church and perhaps a godly Christian father.  It is the man’s role and responsibility to lead the family and the church.  If a woman has some good ideas or spiritual thoughts, she should be sharing them with her authority because she is to be the helper, both to her husband and to the church. But  the final “yes” or “no” is left to the man and, right or wrong, the decision-making is his responsibility.  Her responsibility is to follow.  Our  gracious God has wisely  set  up this authority system
so that there is no chaos, and so that  His sons and  daughters can  live in joy, harmony, and order with each other.

Ephesians 5:22-23  states, “Wives be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as
Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.”  We read in Ephesians 4:8-12 that men are gifted to be teachers, pastors, and evangelists in the church. Paul also writes in 1Timothy 2:11,12,  “Let a woman quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness; but I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet.”  The apostle Paul knew the importance that God places on sound doctrine and strong uncompromised leadership in the church.  God certainly is not a chauvinist;  The Bible says in 2 Peter 1:20,21, “But know this first of all, that no prophecy of Scripture is a matter of one’s own interpretation, for no prophecy was ever made by an act of human will, but men moved by the Holy Spirit spoke from God.” Read also 2Timothy 3:16.

 Many Bible verses praise the godly woman, not to mention  a whole chapter (Prov. 31). Verses such as Proverbs 12:4 “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband;” Proverbs 19:14 “House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord;” and Proverbs 31:10 “An excellent wife, who can find?  For her worth is far above jewels.”  Many women in the Old and New Testaments were mentioned for upholding God’s principles and being used in a tremendous way for the Lord.  Women whom the Bible says in Hebrews 11, “..the world was not worthy of.” Some of these faithful women’s   testimonies  will  be  shared   further on. Now if God made the woman “perfect” for her role as described in Genesis 3:16-18,   what  went  wrong?  Why  is  the  divorce   rate  so high?  The answer can be found in Genesis 3:16-19. Sin is the answer.
Mankind now has the knowledge of good and evil (a sin prone nature). In Genesis 3:16-19 God is dealing out the consequences of sinning to Adam and Eve.  In verse 16, God speaks to Eve and says, “I will greatly multiply  your pain  in childbirth, in  pain you  shall bring forth children;  Yet your desire (to control), shall be for your husband, and he  shall  rule  over  you.”  What  once was  easy  will now be difficult because of our sin nature wanting to put ourselves first.  A good verse
to compare the word desire is found in Genesis 4:6-7, “Then the Lord said to Cain, ‘Why are you angry?  And why has your countenance fallen?  And if you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its DESIRE is for you, but you must master it.’”  In Genesis 3:16, when we finish the last part of the verse, we see that the woman’s “desire” will be to master her husband.  This is made very clear when God answers in contrast, “And he shall rule over you.”  Remember that these were the consequences of  her  choice to eat  from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.  If the desire for her husband is a positive desire, then what is the curse?  This desire, as seen with Cain, is a
domineering controlling desire.  Knowing that this “desire” for her husband is to “rule” him should help a godly woman to be on guard and MASTER her urge or “need” to lead; as well as to be aware of her tendency to be emotionally led.

In the Old and New Testaments, we see that at times leadership fails or is disobedient.  For the married Christian woman, God has given steps for her to follow that are found in 1 Peter 3:1-6, “In the same way, you wives be submissive to your husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of  their  wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. And let not your adornment be merely external, braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” The gentle and quiet spirit shows a spirit of confidence--that she is in a correct walk with God, doing what is right, being conscious of  nothing against her.  Jesus said of Himself, “Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am GENTLE and humble in heart; and you shall find  rest  for your souls.  For  My yoke is  easy, and   My load is light.”  Matt. 11:29,30  When the Christian married woman is faced with the “test” of a husband who is disobedient to the Word, whether he is saved or unsaved, her relationship with God should not change!  A godly Christian wife should not be placing her hope of inner peace, joy, and happiness on her husband, because all mankind fails at times, and if her husband is unsaved, she should expect disobedience to God. Her hope should be in God, and ALL that He has done for her, like spending three days and three nights in Hell, paying the penalty for  her crimes against God.  This should help her to
not react sinfully, towards her husband’s sin. Her reaction towards her husband’s disobedience should be that of gentleness, quietness,  not nagging, being hard for him to bear up with her grumbling. “Let your ‘light’ shine before men, (which would include a disobedient husband), in such a way that they may ‘see’ (observe) your good works and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”  Matt. 5:16

 The Christian woman who understands authority is the woman who sees that submitting to her husband is the same as submitting to God, since He is the One who commanded it.  Jesus marveled at the centurion’s understanding of authority, and associated it with GREAT FAITH.  Matt. 8:8-10.   Heb. 13:17  says, “OBEY your leaders, and submit to them; for they keep watch over your souls, as those who will give an account.  Let them do this with joy and   not   with   grief,   for this would be unprofitable  for you.”  The Christian wife’s saved husband, whether obedient or disobedient,  will give an account for HER actions and responses towards his words and behavior, at the Judgment Seat.  The rest of 1 Peter 3 vss. 5 and 6   says, “For in this way in former times the “holy” women also, WHO HOPED IN GOD, used  to adorn themselves,  being   submissive, 1 (having or showing a tendency to submit without resistance; docile; yielding) to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him “lord”, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.”  To “not be frightened by any fear” means she is presently  sin-confessed,  having  a  clear conscience before  God, and   also  that  she  is  trusting  that  God  is working  with the heart of her disobedient leader.  If  a  person  under authority has a concern or some thoughts that they believe would help their disobedient leader, they need to share them with an attitude of respect.  No one likes to be treated without respect, and how much more respect should be given to one in a God-given position of authority, an authority that the Christian wife chose when she said “I do.”  Whenever a Christian wife talks with her husband, or anyone, but especially her husband, it should ALWAYS be with a kind, gracious voice.  Gal. 5:14 says, “For the
whole law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.”  As you dialogue with someone you should ask yourself, “In what manner would I like to be talked to?”

Even in times of verbal or physical abuse in the home, the “godly” Christian wife, during times of her afflictions, can draw a
peaceful and quiet strength from within by following in her Lord’s example.  “He was oppressed and He was afflicted, yet He did not open His mouth; like a lamb that is led to slaughter, and like sheep that is silent before its shearers, so He did not open His mouth.” Is. 53:7 The abused wife’s attitude of not reviling in return, is showing her husband her great faith and strength in the Lord, which he does not have.   “For   what   credit is there if, when YOU SIN and are harshly treated, you endure it with patience?  But, if when you do what is right and suffer for it, you PATIENTLY endure  it, this finds favor with God.”  1 Peter 2:20   In an abusive situation the Christian wife should hold to God’s promises, “Shout for joy, O heavens! And  rejoice, O
earth!  Break forth into joyful shouting, O mountains!  For the Lord has comforted His people, and will have compassion on His afflicted.” Is. 49:13; 2 Cor. 1:3,4   Remember  the   sufferings of Job, who, in all that he suffered, never did he curse or blame God.  Also keeping in mind that the godly Christian woman’s husband, saved or unsaved, might not change his behavior, or  might not become a believer for the rest of their married life.  Her goal and ambition is to be pleasing to God. 2 Cor. 5:9  If he chooses to stay in disobedience, that disobedient husband is God’s problem.  Leave it to God.

We see in 1 Sam. 25:1-38 how God dealt with Abigail’s disobedient husband.  Nabal was a wealthy but greedy man.  In
contrast, his wife was gracious.  David and his army were traveling to Paran and had journeyed onto Nabal’s estate.  After helping Nabal’s shepherds  guard  his  flocks, King  David  requested some provisions for his men,  but  Nabal refused. King David and his 400 men were going to kill Nabal and every male servant he had.  Abigail heard this, and she hurried and took much provisions to them. David spared Nabal and his servants on account of his wise wife (vss. 32, 33). Abigail  probably  had the same  opinion of her  husband as everyone else did.  He was a harsh, evil, and worthless man. She could have done nothing and allowed David to kill him, but she saved his life. Ten days later, God struck Nabal dead. The opposite example is a wife
dealing incorrectly  with  her   authority.  This  is  found  in  2 Samuel 6:11-23.  Michal, King Saul’s daughter and King David’s wife had despised her husband David in her heart when she  looked out the palace window and saw him dancing before the Lord with all his might,  wearing  a  linen  ephod, when  he and ALL Israel brought the ark of the Lord from Obed-edom into the city of David.  After King David  blessed ALL the people  of   Israel,  where  was Michal? She was inside. Then she came out  to  David  and  said to him, “How  the King  uncovered  himself in the eyes  of  his servants’ maids  as one of the foolish ones shamelessly uncovers himself!”  God closed her womb and Michal had no child to the day of her death because of her
arrogance towards her husband, David.  Michal was the disobedient one, and God dealt with her.

1. To be sensible and reverent, teaching what is good to younger Christian women--to be pure and kind to their children and husband, not gossiping about others, a hard worker in the home, not an idle busy-body, living a quiet life.  1 Tim. 2:2,3; 5:15; Titus 2:3-5

2. To show hospitality to strangers, assisting those in the body of Christ, and those in distress; having a gentle, feminine disposition.  To have a good reputation and be devoted to good works.  Matt. 20:28; Phil. 2:3; 1 Tim. 5:10; 1 Peter 3:4

3. To have her hope fixed on God, praying faithfully, taking her thoughts captive and setting her mind on the things above; to have hidden the Word in her heart, meditating on it daily.  Deut. 6:5-9; Psalm 1:2,3; Acts 17:11; Col. 3:2; 2 Cor. 10:5;  Tim. 5:5; 1 John 1:9

4.  To be trusted by her husband in everything.  To be  submissive  to her  husband,  as  Sarah  called  Abraham lord.  Encouraging, edifying, being the body and soul mate God wants her to be, understanding she is his helper until death. Under no circumstances can she leave or desert her husband. She made a vow to God.  The Bible says, PAY WHAT YOU VOW! Eccl. 5:2-6; Gen. 2:18-25; Prov. 31:10-12; Malachi 2:13-16; Romans 12:10; 14:19; 1 Cor. 7:2-5

5. To have her head covered with long   hair, hanging down, covering the ears and neck.  This is a symbol to the angels, showing  them (and others)  that  she  has  a proper  and  correct understanding of   male authority over her, in the home and church, so that they have no accusation against her.  For a woman to have short hair would be disgraceful, and she is one and the same with one who has her head shaved.  Job 1:6,7; 1 Cor. 11:1-16; 1 Tim. 2:11-15; Rev. 9:7,8; 12:10

6. To be properly clothed and arranged.  She is not wearing men’s garments, such  as  pants  and jeans.  She  is  dressed in  her clothing--dresses and skirts.  Pants are men’s clothing and she would be an abomination before the Lord if she wore them.  Dresses should be modest; not revealing or tight-fitting.  Deut. 22:5; 1 Tim. 2:9

7. The  Christian  mother  is  to  be  a  worker  at home--training, disciplining,  and instructing her children, not giving them to someone else to raise. Many Christian mothers have believed the lie, “You’ve come a long way baby,” and feel that they “NEED” to work.  Today we have weekend mothers, and during the week day-cares and public schools are raising their children.  These are organizations that almost always have different  moral  standards  than Christians.  Children’s minds are so impressionable and  the  foolishness  that is  bound  up in children when they are together can lead to trouble.  That is why their
home  is their   safe ground,  being  disciplined and   taught   by  their parents.  Deut. 4:10; 6:6,7; Proverbs 4:14,15; 31:28,29; 1 Cor. 15:33; 2 Cor. 6:14; Eph. 6:4; 1 Tim. 2:15; 5:8-10; Titus 2:5

8.  Christian women who desire to be godly must keep the second greatest commandment according to God, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”  You cannot love your neighbor or your fellow man if you do not share the gospel message--a message  that will save your neighbor from an eternity in hell, if they believe it. Matt. 22:34-40; 1 Cor. 1:17; 9:16-19; 2 Cor. 5:18-20; Eph. 6:19,20

*  “A wise man will hear and increase in learning; and a man of  understanding will acquire wise counsel.”  Proverbs 1:5

*  “A gracious woman attains honor, and violent men attain riches.” Proverbs 11:16

*  “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down  with her own hands.”  Proverbs 14:1

*  “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but the woman who fears  the Lord she shall be praised.”  Proverbs 31:30

*  “The Lord gives the command; the women who proclaim the good  tidings are a great host.”  Psalm 68:11  (see also Psalm 96:2 )

In the Old and New Testaments there are numerous godly women mentioned because of their value and great importance to the body of Christ, and their godly example to their children.  Their lives, as we read in the Bible, and in persecuted times, were extremely eventful and useful in God’s plan for mankind.

1. Sarah  Her acts of faith are mentioned in Genesis, Chapters 12 through 23.  She was mentioned as one of the people whom the world was not worthy of.  Heb. 11:11; 11:38

2.  Poor widow    She, out of her poverty,  gave all she possessed and had to live on,  to God.  Mark 12:41-44

3. Queen Esther  During the reign of Xerxes, Esther saved her people, the Jews, by putting her life on the line.  To this day, Jews celebrate the feast of Purim in honor of Queen Esther on the 14th day of the Hebrew month of Adar.  Book of Esther

4. Ruth  A Moabite converted to Judaism.  The Bible calls Ruth a “woman of excellence.”  She was King David’s great-grandmother. Christ came from this lineage.  Book of Ruth, Matthew 1:5

5. Rahab  A Gentile harlot who chose to fear God and put her faith in Him.  Rahab protected the Jewish spies in her house from the King of Jericho, who  was  seeking to kill them.  She was Christ’s great-great-grandmother. Jesus had two Gentile God-fearing women in his lineage. Joshua 2:1-24; Heb. 11:31; James 2:25

6. Priscilla  Paul refers to Priscilla and her husband, Aquilla, as “fellow workers.” They risked their own lives to save the apostle Paul. Acts 18:2; 18:26; Rom16:34; 2 Tim. 4:19; I Cor. 16:19

7.  Anna  She was a prophetess and a witness to all those who were seeking Jesus Christ, our Redeemer.  She stayed in the temple night and day, serving the Lord.  Luke 2:36-38

8.  Romans 16:1-15 Women  Paul mentions several women here as servants of the church,  fellow hard-workers for the Lord.

9.  Syrophoenician Woman  Jesus said she was a woman of great faith, a compliment He did not give to His own disciples.  In fact, He told them they were lacking in faith. Matt. 15:21-28; Mark 7:24-30

10.  Eulalia   A  young  Christian  lady  who  was known for her good temperament   and   sober   mind.   Being apprehended   for  being  a   Christian, the magistrate attempted to bring her over to paganism, but she ridiculed the pagan deities with such boldness that the judge, so enraged at her behavior, ordered her to be tortured.  Her sides were torn by hooks and her breasts burnt in the most shocking manner, until  she  expired  by  the  violence  of  the flames in Dec. A.D. 303.2

11.  Sarah Vignes  A woman who, at the age of 60,  upon refusing to go to “Mass”, was seized and ordered to say a prayer to saints.  When she refused that as well, they thrusted a sickle into her belly, ripped her apart, and then cut off her head.3

12.  Annie Askew (1521?-1546)   She denied that the real body and blood of Jesus was present in the sacrament, insisting that God was not present in the wafer and wine itself.  She also said she would rather  read  just five  lines  in  the  Bible  than hear five  masses in the temple. Her Catholic husband Thomas Kyme turned her out of her home because of her religious beliefs.  When brought before the Lord Mayor of London, who asked, “Thou foolish woman, sayest thou that the priests cannot make the body of Christ?”  And she answered, “I say so, my Lord;  for I have read that God  made  man;  but  that  man can make God, I never yet read, nor, I suppose, ever shall read.”  Then the Lord Mayor questioned her: “After the words of  consecration, is it  not the Lord’s body?”  And she answered this time: “No, but it is consecrated bread.” Because of her stand, she was stretched on a torture rack, and having been stretched so badly, she was chained in the middle to a  chair and burned alive at Smithfield, July 16, 1546.Many others had been strengthened by her martrydom.4

Women have written the lyrics to some of the churches most stirring hymns, such as: “Nearer, My God, To Thee,”  by Sarah
Flower Adams;  “Rescue  the  Perishing” and “Blessed Assurance”  by Fanny J. Crosby; and Julia Ward Howe’s “Battle Hymn of the Republic.”  Songs like these have encouraged Christians when they gather together.

*  “As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.” Proverbs 11:22

* “The woman of folly is boisterous; She is naive and knows nothing.” Proverbs 9:13-18

*  “A foolish son is a destruction to his father, and the contentions of a wife are a constant dripping.” Proverbs 19:13

*  “It is better to live in a corner of a roof (Jewish patio), than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” Proverbs 21:9

Some women in the Bible did not follow Godly principles, these are examples that the godly Christian woman should not follow:

1.  Jobs’ wife  Satan had been given permission by God, to TEST Job to see if Job worshipped God for nothing (since God had multiplied his possessions).  Satan’s first sift (Luke 22:31), was on ALL that he had. Job’s oxen, donkeys, sheep, camel, and his servants, were either consumed with fire, or were attacked and killed by raiders.  Job’s sons and daughters were struck by wind; the house they were in collapsed on them, and they died.  Through all of this Job did not sin, nor did he blame God.  Satan persisted that Job’s worship was because of personal well-being.  “Skin for skin!  Yes, all that a man has he will
give for his life.  However, put forth Thy hand, now, and touch his bone, and his flesh; he will curse Thee to Thy face.”  So the Lord gave Satan permission to sift him with the ultimate test, afflicting his body. Satan smote Job with sore boils from the sole of his foot to the crown of his head. When Job’s friends came to comfort him, they wept, for they could not even recognize him. For seven days and seven nights no one spoke a word to him for they saw that  his  pain  was  very  great. Job  said  of   his  suffering,  “Why is  light  given to him who suffers, and life to the bitter of soul; who long for death, but there is none, and
dig for it more than for hidden treasures; who rejoice greatly, they  exult when they find the grave?” “Why is light given to a man whose way is hidden, and whom God has hedged in?”  “For my groaning comes at the sight of my food, and my cries pour out like water.” Job 3:20-24  “So am I allotted months of vanity, and nights of trouble are appointed me.  When I lie down I say, ‘When shall I arise?’” “But the night continues, and I am continually tossing until dawn.  My flesh is clothed with worms and a crust of dirt;  my skin hardens and runs.” Job 7:3-5  Job in his despair, was pressured by his uncompassionate wife to curse God, “And Job took a potsherd to scrape himself, then his wife said, do you still hold fast your integrity?  Curse God and die.”
Job’s skin was turning black on him, and he went about mourning, with no comfort,  Job 30:28-30, comforted not even by his wife. Job 2:8-10

2.  Queen Vashti  King Ahasuerus(Xerxes), the King of the Persian Empire and all the Ancient lands at that time, had displayed his riches and royal glory for seven days.  On the last day he wanted to show the public his beautiful queen, Vashti. She refused. Her rebellion  caused Xerxes to remove her from the honorable position as queen in his harem and gave that role to a beautiful and humble woman named Esther.  This was done so that every man was treated as master in his house.  Xerxes’ harem was not an example of God’s marital plan. The example given here is to show what happens when a woman is
arrogant towards authority.  Esther 1:1-22

3.  Sapphira  She lied to Peter along with her husband, Ananias, about the property they had sold.  The apostle Peter onfronted her and said, “Why is it that you have agreed together to put the Spirit of the Lord to the test?  Behold, the feet of those who have buried your husband are at the door, and they shall carry you out as well.”       Acts 5:1-11

For the Christian mother, there is no greater way to change society than to raise God-fearing children. One reason for the collapse of morality and discipline in our present society, is because of a lack of God-fearing parents. Most Christian families today have joined the world of entertainment. Quality time with a child today is watching television and playing sports.  That is why we have a society of grown Christian men who act like boys and Christian women who act like girls and dress like men! The Christian’s example to follow is Jesus Christ.  Who at the age of 12 spent 3 days in the temple, amazing the teachers with His questions and understanding, which started at an early age, Luke 2:39-52.  And other young men, such as Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach, Abed-nego, and David, who as young men, demonstrated great faith in God, when their adult examples showed none. When America was founded, we had very young men with the insight and maturity to be ambassadors to other countries. Imagine a young man today representing our nation--quite a scary thought!  In most cases, if a young man or woman is sober-minded today, he or she was probably home-schooled.  Home-schooling is the only biblical way to educate.  If you are not aware of the propaganda, lies, and moral decay in the public schools, and even in Christian schools, you need to wake up.  How grievous it is to many of us who know the depravity that is going on in these “herd-mentality” schools. Homosexuality is  taught, condoms are distributed, and condom use is demonstrated to the youngest of ages, usually without parents’ knowledge or consent. “Safe sex” is promoted instead of godly morality.  The religion of evolution is taught as a fact, not a theory, and  the  TRUTH  of creation is mocked.  Where the only “naughty” word is “BIBLE” and the only mean, bad person is the godly Christian who is trying to follow the Bible whole-heartedly.  Guns and illegal drugs are  sold, and  the “sophisticated” street/psych. drug Ritalin  (Methylphenidate) is widely distributed  to large numbers of students by school nurses, and then sold by the children to other  students.  Ritalin is a class 2 drug in the same category as morphine and opium. If you know of a child who is on this amphetamine, for that child’s’ sake, please study the damaging effects of this toxic drug and all psychiatric drugs.  No Christian should be involved in any form of psychiatry.  God’s Word is all we need.  “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work,” 2 Tim. 3:16,17.  Excellent books to read on this subject are: “The Tranquilizing of America” by Dr. Hughes and Brewin;6  “Psychiatric Drugs: Hazards to the Brain”  by Peter Roger Breggin Md.;7  and
“Psychoheresy” by Martin and Deidre Bobgan.8  A Christian family cannot educate a child in godless surroundings, without some repercussions. “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company corrupts good morals.’”  I Cor. 15:3

The other guideline in the Bible, that was also mentioned in #7 is disciplining.  Disciplining correctly as shared in God’s Word
produces a fear of God and of doing wrong things.  “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but FOOLS despise wisdom and instruction.  Hear, my son, your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Indeed they are a graceful wreath to your head, and ornaments about your neck,”   Proverbs 1:7-9. No discipline is why our prison cells are packed full.  “He who spares his rod HATES his son, but he who LOVES him disciplines him DILIGENTLY,” Proverbs 13:24.  To put it more pointedly, Proverbs 23:13,14 says, “Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you beat him with the rod, he will not die.  You shall beat him with the rod,  and deliver his soul from Sheol, (death).”  Other verses on the importance of rearing and disciplining in the Christian home are: Prov. 15:10; 19:18; 19:27; 20:20; 20:30; 22:6.  Corporal
discipline with the rod (switch) is not only Biblical, but was the foundation of this and many other countries for many centuries.  It  is NOT child abuse, but  child   love.  The   purpose  is  to  bring  a stinging  pain which is the consequence of wrong-doing.  This was not only for children,  but  for  adults  also.   Today  you  can see the results, in the public schools, of the lack of discipline and respect children have toward  other children, adults, and all those in authority over them. Many  of  today’s  children have  not had  any form of self-restraint  taught  and   corporal  discipline applied and  have  been allowed to let their sin natures rule them. We now have children, sometimes even before their teenage years, raping young girls, bombing schools, killing other schoolmates and their teachers.  This was not happening forty years ago.  Why?  Because parents did not
believe the insane and ridiculous idea that spanking was child abuse. Discipline does not always have to be with a rod. Taking privileges away is another.  Without discipline the child has no fear of sin, and if he/she is not disciplined for their wrong-doings, and is allowed to get away with things, this could lead to a flippant attitude towards authority. Flippancy towards God, the ultimate authority, might send he/she straight to an eternity in hell. The verses regarding discipline are God’s words.  When discipline is administered correctly there is no child abuse, because correct discipline is done under complete control, with no anger involved.   Always keeping in mind that until a child is an adult, they are in training, and foolishness can be expected, Prov. 22:15.  Everyone wants to know that they are loved and appreciated, so much more so a child.  When a child does well they should be complimented to encourage more good deeds.  Our gracious Father encourages us on even when we fail, and when we do what is right He is an awesome rewarder,  Hebrews 11:6.

The Bible says in 1 Tim. 2:15 that; “...women shall be preserved through the bearing of children IF they continue in faith and
love and sanctity  with self-restraint.”  The word “preserved”   is defined  as  “saved.” “Shall be  preserved”, is  speaking  specifically of the Judgment Seat of Christ, where the godly woman shall be saved from the  loss of  rewards.   The  words,  “bearing of children”, comes from the  words “tekno” and  “gonia”. “Tekno” means child, “gonia”  means corner, area, or place.  The Lord is telling us that the woman’s place is with children, not just bearing them but teaching, guiding, and raising them.  This is consistent with  1Tim.5:10,14, “Continuing  in   faith,  love, and  sanctity   with self-restraint”, can only be done if she  is obedient to her God-given role as designed by her Maker and is fulfilling this role joyfully, as God ordained it. Keep
in mind verses such as,  I John 5:3, “For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments; and His commandments are not burdensome;”  and John 14:21, “He who has My commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves Me; and he who loves Me shall be loved by My Father, and I will love him, and  will disclose Myself to him.” This  is what will save her at the Judgment Seat of Christ.

In closing, God does not want either sex to be arrogant towards the other, as both have equal honor before God.  Just because
the man is the “stronger vessel” does not mean that he is better or more spiritual than the woman.  It simply means he is stronger, for the purpose of him being obedient to his God-given role.  When both man and woman are obedient to their roles there is beautiful harmony.  The symbol of God with His wife, Israel, and His compassion and desire for her as He comforts her in Hosea 14:1-8 when she returns back to Him, and is being His faithful wife, is how God wants the married Christian relationship to be.  She loves him in totality and gives no other person that love.  He, in turn, loves her as Christ loved His bride,
the church, and gave Himself up for her.  To have the Lord say to the Christian married couple, what the He said to Zacharias, the priest, and his wife Elizabeth--that they were both  righteous  in  the  sight of God,  walking  blamelessly  in  all  the commandments and requirements of the Lord, Luke 1:5,6--should be the desire of every married Christian couple. Likewise, the model for the single Christian woman is to be devoted to her heavenly husband, Jesus Christ, as Anna, the widow, was.  Luke 2:36-38
 

                                                               1. “Submissive” definition taken from Webster’s New World Dictionary
                                                                      Third College Edition      Simon & Schuster, Inc.   c1994, 1991, 1998
                                                               2.   Eulalia   Foxe’s Book of Martyrs  by John Foxe
                                                                      Page 28      c1926  by John C. Winston (renewed 1954 by Holt, Rinehart
                                                                     & Winston)       (Zondervan Publishing House  1967)
                                                               3.   Sarah Vignes    Foxe’s Book of Martyrs   by John Foxe
                                                                      Page 109    c1926 by John C. Winston (renewal 1954 Holt, Rinehart &
                                                                      Winston)           (Zondervan Publishing House  1967)
                                                               4.   Annie Askew  Great Women of the Christian Faith  by Edith Deen
                                                                      Page 329     c1959 by Edith Deen
                                                                      (Published by Barbour & Company  1959)
                                                               5.   Mme  Jeanne Guyon    Great Women of the Christian Faith  by Edith Deen
                                                                      Page 139    c1959 by Edith Deen
                                                                      ( Published by Barbour & Company  1959)
                                                               6.   Hughes R. Brewin R.   The Tranquilizing of America  New York, Harcourt,
                                                                      Brace, Jovanovich      c1979
                                                               7.   Peter Roger Breggin  M.D.    Psychiatric Drugs: Hazards to the Brain
                                                                      Springer Publishing Co. Inc.     c1983
                                                               8.   Martin & Deidre Bobgan     Psychoheresy    Eastgate  Publishers
                                                                       c1987
 
 

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